Everyone will get older and make their own experiences. In my opinion the older you get the harder it is to maintain a friendship. Of course there are lifetime friendships, but these are so rare and even though some might last for quite a while, neither you nor your friend will stay the same as in the beginning. The process of finding yourself won’t end with your teenage years, so some of us will find themselves falling out of some of our friend- or relationships. Not because you don’t like the person, but just because you have changed so much throughout your life and also your friends who you may have made at high school, work or university.
It was hard for me to accept that especially those friends with whom I had shared a hobby or a location with, were falling out of that bond that had developed during our time together. So when you stop going to a certain place or when you stop doing a hobby or whatever, you just don’t have the opportunity to see these people anymore, because it’s not as convenient as it was before. Now for seeing someone and spending time with them, you probably have to go on an one-hour bus ride and maybe some “friends“ aren’t worth the effort. Or maybe you just don’t have time to see each other, because you have found a new hobby or you’re going to new locations. Maybe you feel closer to the people you surround yourself with more often now. The older you get the more your life and your circumstances will change. Eventually that’s why in my opinion it’s harder to maintain friendships, as you get older.
The language of friendship is not words but meanings. – Henry David Thoreau
But thank god there are friends for a lifetime. And the special thing about them is that they don’t have to be perfect. They don’t have to share the same hobbies, listen to the exact same music or watch the same movies. Your best friend doesn’t need to live next door. Because these are just trifles, things which don’t define the relationship between you and your best friend. I noticed that when I met my best friend after some weeks and we talked and found ourselves sitting there in silence. It wasn’t that kind of awkward silence but a comfortable one. Still being there after a long time, still being the shoulder to lean on. Feeling the vibes. Nothing had changed. And I am greatful for that friendship. I am glad to have a person who overlooks my failures or mistakes.
Let’s not forget about fake friends. Well what can I say.. they have their purpose too. A friend is either a gift or a lecture, like basically everything is in life. So my advice for you out there is just to be careful with making new friends fast. Be aware of those wolfs in sheep’s clothing who ask about intimate stuff. It’s risky telling somebody you hardly know everything about your personality, experiences or life in general. It could be used for bad things. Don’t be fooled!
I’m looking forward to hearing about your bad/good experiences with friends! Comment below.